Couples Therapy
I work with couples who feel stuck in a cycle where one of you reaches for closeness while the other pulls away. You both want connection but often end up feeling unseen and lonely, even when you’re in the same room.
You may notice that conversations escalate quickly or shut down entirely. You talk about the same issues again and again, yet the real hurt underneath never quite gets touched. Both of you desire things to get better, but it seems like neither of you feels fully safe being vulnerable with the other.
The couples I work with are at all different stages—and I am deeply passionate about this work. So many of us have experienced wounds in our early life relationships; having a significant other in the therapy space creates the grounds for our relational "stuff" to surface and be tended to more quickly than in individual therapy.
I am an active therapist in the room, which means I like to provide psychoeducation when appropriate and gently challenge my couples to see things from a different perspective or dig deeper. I believe all our behaviors make sense once the context in which they were first felt necessary for our protection is understood.
I am passionate about working with LGBTQIA+ couples and also love working with couples where neurodivergence is present. I am sex-positive, polyamory, ENM, LGBTQIA+, and kink-affirming.
It feels more comfortable to talk about and initiate intimacy
Communication becomes smoother and more efficient
That nagging sense of fear about how the other person will respond fades
You feel more connected as a team. It’s us against the world, not us against each other
Partners work together on their past wounds instead of triggering each other more
More clarity is gained around how polyamory or consensual non-monogamy could or can continue to fit into your relationship if desired